Takeru Kobayashi revolutionized the Nathan's hot dog eating contest. In his first attempt at the famed contest in 2001 he ate 50 hot dogs in 12 minutes. The previous record was 25. Recently he was interviewed on the Freakonomics podcast sharing his tips on deliberate practice and creative ways to tackle obstacles. One of the most interesting comments was about how he handles defeat. He said, "Sometimes you win because the other person is having a bad day and sometimes you lose because you're having a bad day. Winning or losing doesn't mean you're the best. In the long run, you can't look at competing against others. All you can do is compare yourself to yourself and see how far you can go."
How PROFOUND! You're really only competing against yourself.
How PROFOUND! You're really only competing against yourself.
All too often we compare ourselves to others and feel inadequate or develop a false sense of superiority. It reminds me of the banter between Richard Sherman & Michael Crabtree & Patrick Peterson. Who is better? Who is the best? Can we answer that? Does it matter? Some athletes talk trash to get in the heads of their opponents and throw them off their game. However, the athlete/person who stays focused on themselves will always succeed.
NFL legend Bill Walsh said the secret to his coaching success was staying focused on what mattered. Bill didn't worry about the other team or things outside his control. He focused on HIS job and what HE could do. He taught his athletes to live in the moment by moment processes that would lead to success. He won several games with this philosophy and even cherished some of the losses because he knew he did everything he could on that day.
If one can develop a similar attitude, there would be no limits. No more shame or doubt. No more distractors. Only Joy.